Because Every Good List Ends at 13
Posted by Moose on March 9th, 2010. Filed under: Love.Now that another week has passed into the annals of history, I have a few additions to my List o’ Things I Want in a Mate. Therefore:
12. A good match for me. Oh, so crucial. A person can be many wonderful things and just not the right one. It’s something to do with inexplicable chemistry, and all your little quirks and wounds fitting together in a way that’s fun and productive for you both. Not the easiest thing to spot on a first date, but you want to get that one right eventually.
13. We connect in the four major ways: Emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual. And we each have that little spark when we think of each other – the one that makes you really excited to see them after a few days away, that makes you look for them in a crowded room, and be proud when they accomplish something awesome – even if it’s just remembering to remove socks from floor.
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March 10th, 2010 at 12:01 am
Yes and yes. Especially number 13.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:44 am
I love that you think removing socks from the floor is something awesome. My husband has trouble with that and frankly, it makes me stabby. Haha.
March 10th, 2010 at 9:10 am
My best friend in England (you remember Anna!) broke up with her long-term boyfriend some years ago, and it baffled me because it seemed to have come out of the blue. They’d been together for about five years, and I couldn’t imagine what had gone wrong. Anyway, I asked her once (on the bus, I remember it clearly) and she told me that while she’d been away from him for a few days at a conference, she realized she hadn’t missed him. She’d think of him — when she thought of him at all — but she didn’t feel excited to see him again or eager to get back. And that’s when she realized that maybe she didn’t want to be with him after all. That stuck with me so permanently that I always feel a tiny twinge of relief whenever I’m away from Sean (even for a day, don’t laugh) and realize how powerfully I miss him.
All this to say that number 13: YES. So important.
March 10th, 2010 at 9:19 am
Best #13 of anything I’ve seen in a long time. yes, Yes and YES!! Muy importante.
March 10th, 2010 at 9:55 am
I really think #13 is an intangible that you just TOTALLY articulated. You really have your finger on it! I can’t wait to see you find this guy — he sounds pretty darn amazing! And that is what you deserve!
March 10th, 2010 at 10:04 am
Love this, Amber. I can’t wait to meet this guy.
March 11th, 2010 at 9:56 am
Ha! I think you should just keep adding to list throughout the year, as your adventures in dating unfold.
It’s fascinating and very very wise.
March 11th, 2010 at 10:33 am
Ooo. Those are good. In fact I’m pretty sure those are the 2 things have really been missing in all my relationships, hence why they didn’t last.
March 12th, 2010 at 1:16 pm
Keep the faith and you will find it!
Sadie at heyMamas
March 12th, 2010 at 2:46 pm
Good for you! I made a list (like this) a few years back and met my husband (VERY) shortly thereafter. It works!
March 13th, 2010 at 3:38 pm
In honor of my husband, in 41 years together I NEVER, EVER, EVER had to pick up after him, he put everything away including his shaving gear. He was definitely one of a kind.
March 17th, 2010 at 9:56 am
Good good good!
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