Comments on: Taking The Hint

By: Rhi

Rhi — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 20:57:42 +0000

Also! QAT!

By: snerg

snerg — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:01:21 +0000

Okay, the boil bit? GENIUS analogy.

I have to put a “me too” in here as far as knowing how hard it is to let go of this sort of thing and move on from it. Unfortunately, I have no good advice to give on how to cope in the long run except to give it time and don’t be hard on yourself… but for the short term I can say that watching movies like Under the Tuscan Sun – with my very good friend Mister Chocolate sitting beside me, offering his unwavering support in my time of need – always makes me feel a little better. For a bit, anyway.

Or maybe just try a dab of this stuff?

By: bethany actually

bethany actually — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 05:48:41 +0000

Unfortunately, I think this is one of those things that can’t be forced. Certainly a positive attitude helps, as do spending time doing things you love that have little or no connection to your ex, hanging out with friends who love you, talking a good friend’s ear off when you need to, and laughing a lot. And brownies.

And Lance might help too, or it might turn out to be a huge mistake. I had one of those fresh-off-a-breakup flings when I was in college and it started out lighthearted and fun and quickly went baaaaad for a variety of reasons and ended with the guy barely speaking to me and me having to find a whole new crowd of friends because they all decided to stick with him. So be cautious of anything other than hand-holding with 18-year-old Lances, is all I’m saying.

By: slynnro

slynnro — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 03:52:45 +0000

I don’t know how to get over things either. I’m a lingerer. I sort of enjoy wallowing for a bit. You had a long relationship. I don’t think you need to be in any giant hurry to just get over it. But finding yourself a good chicken fried steak might help

By: san

san — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 01:37:22 +0000

I don’t think there is a patent remedy for broken hearts. Sadly. The only thing that is for sure is that time will heal all wounds. Hopefully sooner than later in your case. Hang in there.

P.S. Does it make you feel better that I am a crier, too?

By: Angella

Angella — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 22:41:06 +0000

Holly’s comment made me laugh. I’ll see what I can do about sending my (tall, dark and handsome) brother to SF…

By: Alyce

Alyce — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 18:42:54 +0000

I’m a crier, too. Especially when I am being misunderstood or, more aptly put, when I am too frustrated to communicate clearly.

Oh great Moose of Awesomeness: I recommend Sephora for that “this too shall pass” feeling. Everything looks brighter with a new lipgloss. (see also me not getting over a friendship breakup and having the shiny lips to prove it)

By: Hänni

Hänni — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 17:56:54 +0000

I’m a big fan of talking-to-anyone-who-will-listen. the only times i could cry during breakup ’06 were when i was telling someone else my stories. i think it was 6 or 7 months before i had a dry-eyed session with my therapist, and even then, even after i started feeling better, i’d tear up every once in a while because i was HAPPY.

By: Jaime

Jaime — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 16:57:04 +0000

Great post, I totally know how you feel.

I had a miscarriage and suddenly (a) we throw a baby shower at work for all the pregnant people (b) a friend emails for the first time since Christmas to announce that she’s pregnant, and (c) I attend a wedding at which everyone asks when my husband and I are going to start a family.

I wasn’t a crier before but I’m a convert.

By: She Likes Purple

She Likes Purple — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 16:35:31 +0000

I’d write my way through it. Maybe not publicly, but there would be writing. And a lot of bread eating.

And a lot of listening to sad songs and crying. BECAUSE I’M A MASOCHIST.